The New Year brings new possibilities, a blank page, where the past is a memory and the future shines bright with promise.
For many of us, it is also an opportunity to set new goals or New Year resolutions. I have never taken this practice seriously, at times half heartedly setting a goal or two.
This year I gave it serious thought, sitting down with pen and paper, carefully going over the last 12 months. I looked at what I had accomplished and at those things that I never got around to.
What happened? Since I didn’t have a road map, I never quite knew where I was going or if I was on track. So how do we set ourselves up to successfully accomplish our goals?
According to Dr. Will Nicholas, Coaching Psychologist and Adjunct Professor at Palm Beach Atlantic University, a typical New Year resolution is gone by February. He goes on to say that the reason why resolutions don’t work are as follows:
- People make too many resolutions. For example, “I’m going to lose weight, go back to college, get a new job, get married, quit amoking, start exercising, and much more.”
- The resolutions are too arbitrary and vague. Like “I’m going to be a better person; “I’m going to get in shape; “I’m going to be more generous,” etc.
- The resolutions are unreasonsble. People do this so when they fail, they can say, “Well, nobody could have accomplished that, but at least I tried.” When the fact is they didn’t really, legimatetly, try. Examples of these resolutions might be earning 10 times previous years income.
Dr. Nicholas offers some suggestions that will help turn those resolutions into reality.
- Choose only one resolution.
- Be specific.
- Make sure resolutions are reasonable.
Finally, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Talk to a trusted friend or family member who can provide support and help with accountability.
Many thanks to Dr. Nicholas for partnering on this post. I hope you found it useful. If you have any tips or suggestions that have worked for you, please share in the comment section below.
Happy New Year! Wishing you a year full of peace, health, love and joy.
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